Which Life Incident Strongly Impacted You?

Taffi Abernathy

We are exposed to many different life experiences, some positive, some negative, and some puzzling (perhaps a "mixed bag" or simply beyond our comprehension). What happened in your life which caused you to see things differently or change your feelings about something? No incident is too trite to mention as you are living in your own skin and therefore, know best.

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Women.

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I hated mustard so bad when I was little I had a nightmare that a big mustard bottle chased me and to this day i still hate the stuff

true story

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daveathall · Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 7:35 pm Post subject:

I was asleep one afternoon on my couch, my wife came in from work and announced that she was going shopping, at the last minute I said that I would go with her.

We were walking around Asda when Carol said that she had a splitting headache and that she needed to sit in the car, I said that I would carry on shopping and only get the essentials and that I would be back with her shortly.About 5 minutes later an announcement came over the tannoy and that I should go to the information desk immediately, I got there and saw Carol, she didnt look well, I said that we were going to the hospital, I knew it was serious when she didnt try to dissuade me.

At the hospital we went straight into emergency, Carol was sitting on an examination couch talking to a nurse when suddenly she put her hands to her head and cried that it was getting worse, she then went into spasms and passed out, I was pushed to one side feeling totally helpless as doctors and nurses with machines rushed in. I ended up in a waiting room, wondering if I should ring my kids, on one hand I knew it was serious but I didnt want them to worry.

A nurse came and I told her my dilemma, she said ring them and tell them to come to the hospital, Carol had had a brain haemorage and she would need to be taken to Hull hospital (about 40 minutes away) we wouldnt be able to go in the ambulance as there wasnt room with all the machines. I was allowed to see her before she left, she was unconcious and attached to various machines, I held her hand and whispered in her ear, I felt my hand being squeezed by hers, she had heard me, it was the last thing I ever said to her.

As we approached Hull I suddenly had a feeling wash over me as though everything was going to be alright, Carol would be OK, as i got out of the taxi that was provided by the hospital for the journey to Hull I said to Steve that everything would be ok he said he knew it would be ok (I later found out that he had the same feeling when we approached Hull as I had).

When we went inside the hospital, after about an hour a doctor told us that Carol had had another massive brain haemorage as the ambulance had approached Hull and that there was no chance, she would not recover, she would be on life support until all the routine tests had been carried out and that it would be switched off the next day. I still remember the anguished cries from my family as we hugged after this announcement from the doctor.

Did she touch me and my son as she left, I would like to think she did, just a feeling of "Its ok, dont worry Dave everything is fine"

But what about my daughter, she has never mentioned anything and I cant ask her just in case she didnt feel it, is she not saying anything just in case she thinks that we might not have experienced the same? I will never know because I will never ask.

It was real for me, I know she touched me as she started her journey. I know.

Im sorry if you have read this before, its been over 12 years, it still hurts but it helps me to speak about it.
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Dave.

uncle aj · Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 7:39 pm Post subject:

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Taffi Abernathy · Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 7:47 pm Post subject:

Taffi Abernathy · Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 7:55 pm Post subject:

Dave,

A very touching and courageous story to discuss with us. Thank you so much for sharing this personal and highly painful experience; it drives home the truly important things in life. Faith
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daveathall · Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 7:58 pm Post subject:

It is strange coincidence that my wife was called Carol Ann, my wife now is called Carole Anne.
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GoodWatch · Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 8:34 pm Post subject:

The devastating news that Anne had breast cancer and the train of events that followed. It is very hard to convey my feelings through words but the gates of hell opened when I heard her surgeon say "it is inoperable now". All became feeble, little and unimportant when I heard it. It all turned out for the best but at that particular moment I was reduced to nothing.
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